As my mother reaches her 92nd birthday, I am watching her struggle with the challenges that are a natural part of aging. She has always taken good care of herself emotionally, physically, and spiritually, serving as a great role model. She has not suffered with any major illness, and that alone has delivered a major blessing to our family. She does, however, need the type of care that comes with a decreased capacity as she experiences a natural decline.
The ‘mother’ energy plays a major role in everyone’s development to some degree. Dr. Doreen Virtue once said that the ‘mother issue’ would be the most challenging that anyone would ever face. That would be a broad statement in consideration with what each individual perceives as issues with regard to their mother. For example, any unresolved issue that an individual has with regard to their mother might be subconsciously projected onto all women, or themselves.
Dependency on our mother during infancy establishes emotional attachment, behavior characteristics, and personality traits. How those shape the overall life experience can be subtle and not so subtle. My wish for all whisperees is that you have a wonderful Mother’s Day, filled with honoring, respecting, and remembering your mother with love, being honored as a mother, or simply feeling motherly love in some way. Now let’s get a whisper on mother:
Some people have great mother experiences and some do not. The mother bond is one of the most intimate relationship connections to love that anyone will experience. Some people incarnate into difficult mother relationships to bring healing energy to the family, and ultimately to all generations. This is not an easy task and requires the highest level of consciousness and understanding with regard to life purpose.
The energy established with any bond to motherhood can form the most impact on a person’s life experience. Any issue with one’s mother that is perceived as anything less than loving can be expressed in many ways: lack of confidence, a lack of trust, difficulty in seeing one’s true self, issues with setting healthy boundaries, over-sensitivity, the lack of nurturing skills, avoidance of emotions, and difficulty with relationships, especially those that represent the motherly influence. All of which can be the result of unresolved issues with one’s mother.
Those same qualities that can appear less than desirable can be enhanced with the love that comes with understanding, acceptance, and the willingness to experience life without ego judgment. The most loving mother can instill the highest qualities found within the human experience. Refusing to see anything but the love that exists, regardless of the way it was expressed, can erase any misconceptions. Healing from the past can deepen and enrich the life experience.
If you have unresolved issues with your mother, regardless of whether she is still alive, write her a letter and say everything you always wanted to express. Then burn the letter in a ceremony of release. Become present with every blessing that your life has presented, and return to the sovereignty of love with innocence. Find gratitude for the experience without the perception of wrongdoing, then share the love in your heart with those who carry meaning in your life.
Bring joy, ease suffering and create beauty, then dance like you mean it!
“A mother is the truest friend we have, when trials heavy and sudden fall upon us; when adversity takes the place of prosperity; when friends desert us; when trouble thickens around us, still will she cling to us, and endeavor by her kind precepts and counsels to dissipate the clouds of darkness, and cause peace to return to our hearts.” Washington Irving