The angels often whisper the need for good personal boundaries, with the key being to avoid building a wall that leads to separation. They suggest having a gatekeeper who helps ensure relationships are expressed in wellness. With the strong emotional energy behind personal expressions in today’s world, there is obviously a greater need these days for holding good personal boundaries.
If you’re like me, I had to experience the benefits of good personal boundaries to get over the resentment of having to be the one who enforced them (tee hee). Personal boundaries are defined as guidelines, rules, or limits that a person creates to identify reasonable, safe, and permissible ways for other people to behave towards them, and how they will respond when someone passes those limits. They are built out of a mix of conclusions, beliefs, opinions, attitudes, past experiences, and cultural traditions.
Physical boundaries would focus on touch and personal space. Mental boundaries would consider thoughts and opinions. Emotional boundaries would focus on feelings. I think we all want relationships built on wellness, but the path toward healthy relationships is not always clear. There is also the issue of personal boundaries with oneself. Have you ever crossed your own boundary (lol)? Let’s get a whisper on personal boundaries:
Maintaining good personal boundaries is like maintaining good hygiene. The more clean you can keep your energy, the healthier you will be. While unconditional love is allowing everyone to fully express themselves, it would be unloving toward yourself to let others behave in a way that would be considered inappropriate or unacceptable according to a value system. Any value system must be established by the individual according to their core virtues, moral code, or a defined limit that should not be crossed under most circumstances.
Healthy personal boundaries should lead to the freedom of expression, but with a certain level of respect. If respect is not held, trust is violated and safety can be lost. Mental, emotional, physical, or spiritual abuse can occur if personal boundaries are not respected. Once that line is crossed, one must stand up for themselves, or a negative pattern could easily be established. This is the nature of karma and a test of human values, courage, and self-love.
One must understand that maintaining healthy boundaries creates wellness for both parties in a relationship as well as the relationship with one’s self. In order to shine in your physical dimension and to fulfill your soul’s mission, each person must vibrate toward their maximum potential. Don’t let others or the fear of others dim your light and block your full expression of this incarnation.
True freedom requires discipline, so each person must choose if they will have the discipline to create freedom through authenticity, and to demonstrate that freedom through example. Giving away personal sovereignty implies false freedoms, limiting personal power and establishing the loss of vital life-force energy. Love yourself and others enough to enforce healthy personal boundaries based in an intention of creating wellness and love.
Bring joy, ease suffering and create beauty, then dance like you mean it!
“When we fail to set boundaries and hold people accountable, we feel used and mistreated. This is why we sometimes attack who they are, which is far more hurtful than addressing a behavior or a choice.”
― Brené Brown